Virgin Mary..Worshipping or praying to her?

Today I am going to touch one of the most debated topics in the world,yeah,
I know many have already talked about it and I am confirming that I am
just giving my insight in to the same. I remember drawing a picture of the Virgin Mary and I even
have a statue of her in my room. A certain person raised an allegation
that I was trying to do idol worship and praying to Mary, who is not God,
which according to the Bible is the worst of all sins. Well, let me tell him
and others who think like that what is my opinion on the same.
To begin with, Virgin Mary is the mother of Jesus Christ, no historian,
no politician, no human, living or non living being can ever change this
fact. If thereis one person in this life who has suffered the most for us,
it will be a mother only. She bears us in her womb for nine months, suffers
great pain and discomfort in giving birth and growing us up.So Jesus, though
the son of God and God Himself in human form, needed a mother to give
birth to him and raise him. Mary was chosen by God himself to become the'
mother of Jesus (well here the bible is my proof.) SO God could have
chosen anyone with all his mighty powers to become the mother of Christ,
or even give human form to the child Jesus as a matter of fact without a
mother giving birth to him; yet God decided that a woman, who He favoured,
had the great privilege in giving birth to His son in earth. It is God
who honoured her, who are we to dishonour a person who God Himself has
honoured? And above all, a mother is the one most closest to a child and
Jesus has this connection with Mary and this indeed suggests that God
Himself finds favour in her and Mary has the right to be venerated.

Now the million dollar question, is Mary God to be prayed to, my answer will
be 'No', I never say I pray to as I do to God. But then again, we have proof
that she is one person who has won favour with God. The angel Gabriel salutes
her during the annunciation as "Hail, thou that art highly favoured,
the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women." These bible verses
clearly shows Mary has won special favour with God by rightful living and
she is blessed among women, which makes her place extremely special in
the hearts of Christians (beleivers of Mary). Let me cite a small example
here, if someone asks me something that I am in confusion whether to do or
not, I may not do it owing to the fact that what I may do may not be for
the overall good (hence doubting whether to do or not). Again, I may consult
with a good freind/companion on his/her views on the same and act according
to that as I know that person I can beleive in. So obviously the decisions
that we take can be indeed be influenced/helped by those who we love or those
who love us. Often we make hard decisions which may even hurt us to keep our
freinds or loved ones happy. In the same way, we request Mary for her
intercession in our prayers so that she can request God on our behalf to help
us, so we make sure our prayers are being heard. Again, some often question
me, we can pray directly to God, no need of intermediate persons; but again,
in childhood, sometimes when we need something from our father which we
are a bit afraid to take up, we ask our mother to take up, who at a very
suitable time presents it to the father and mostly gets it done (unless it's
not genuine). In the same way, being the Mother of Jesus, she can take
things to God on our behalf and request to hear our prayers to God. The
world is filled with sins and the intercession of Mary can definitely help
us to regain our faith in God.
Another question is regarding statues of the Virgin, Jesus and other saints
seen exquisitely in Catholic churches and in public places where people
kneel in front of them, light candles, say prayers etc: I am also against
idol worship, but the thing here is we are not worshipping the mre idol but
the idol is a replica of the person in front of us, for us to see and feel
the presence of that person. How good it will be if you have a photograph of
a person with you while you can talk to that person, rather than simply
look in to air and converse with them, let alone many prefer face to face
conversations rather than phone conversations, all of this owing to the
fact that when our eyes see something, our whole mind can concentrate on
that thing, so when we see a statue of the Virgin, we remember her and the
hardships that she suffered in bringing Christ to this world.
A great inspiration that we can from the Virgin is the fact that she had
beleif, beyond anyone in the God, that whatever happens to her is by the
will of God and she was ready to face the consequences. When she was not
even married or known a man, she agreed to carry Jesus in her womb by
saying :"Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to
thy word". At an ancient time like that (even now), how many of us would
beleive a virgin could give birth to a child, the society could have marked
her as a prostitue and stoned to death, the most horrid of all and yet
she beleived in God's decision more than hers or anyone else's. Thus by
asking the intercession of Mary we prove that we have a faith in her,
like she had a faith in the Lord, a faith that nothing bad will happen,
a faith which is unshaken whatever happens. Things may not always go as
we planned or as we like, but the thing is God knows everything and his
plan is bigger and better for everyone, Mary teaches us that and with
her we beleive to beleive in God whatever be the situation.
There are people who want their eyes closed all the time even after proofs
are showered in front of them, to them what can I say:"To wake up a person
who is asleep is possible, but what shall I do one who pretends to be asleep?"
They ask like how I can be so sure about the intercession of the Virgin is
truly powerful; I just ask one question:" If your mother asks you something
that you can do, will you do it or not?"..This is the same case with Jesus.
If you ask me for a Biblical example the wedding at Canah where Jesus transformed
water in to wine on Mary's request is the finest example of the same. The
time of Jesus to start doing miracles haven't arrived and He tells this
to herbut again, considering the request came from a mother who beleives her
son, He did that and it's considered to be the first miracle of Jesus on earth.
Thus even Jesus proves that Mary, as his mother has a great influence on
him and the genuine requests made on our behalf by her will not be negelcted.
She is our lady of miracles, behold her, for she is the one who asks the
Lord and the Lord provides whatever she asks for.
Another great quality that the Virgin shows us that gained her the immense
popularity is her virtue, her humbleness, even after being the mother of
Christ, she is all the more humble and beleives it's Lord's decision to
choose her and not her decision to choose the Lord. She was well aware of
the fact that she was going to be the mother of Christ, a position many
women wanted, a role only one woman in the entire mankind would ever receive,
this was the position given to Mary by God. How great would be the feeling
to give birth to the creator of the entire universe, Christ being the
redeemer, Mary the redeemed. Before you say a word against the Virgin,
think how will you please the son by offending and abusing his mother?
She is the door of salvation that opens to Jesus, without her how can you
ever appeal to God, by not honouring his greatest beleiver, how can you
honour him? Mary says in the bible that generations will call her blessed
and describes her as the servant of God, that's what we study from Mary.
Even after knowing she got the prime position as a woman, she went across
to serve Elizabeth as she was pregnant with John the baptist.
Mary, the name itself drives salvation, like a mother unites with her child,
through blood and body, Christ has joined himslef with Mary, both physically
and spiritually. She stands as a mother to entire humankind, gentle and mild,
as a rescue point for sinners, a redeemer of souls, a proof that the humblest
will receive the greatest honours and the mother of God. Behold her in times
of trouble and you will see a mother's protection cover you, she weeps with
you and her soul wishes everyone should be redeemed. Avoid the arrogance and
behold our mother, for she is the only woman who can lead us to salvation.
Above views are totally mine and not for any controversies. These are knowledges
shared across by various saints, the Church and a few I have received while
praying the rosary. Put your beleif in her and she will never let you down.
As I call her 'Mama' she is there for me, for you and for anyone who calls
up on her, her intercession gives me power, a sinner like me stands in front
of God through her prayers and I beleive in Totus Tus (Totally yours) Mama.

Closed Eyes, a poem written by me today quickly

CLOSED EYES:

People say I see the world when eyes open,

I don’t feel so, for you are not there.

I see this world, when eyes are closed,

For you come in then and make my world.

A wonder it seems, I fear to open my eyes

For I can’t let the light of your image leave me ever.

There can’t be a moment when you,

Haven’t touched my heart and soul;

For all I know for sure here is only you.

I thought a rose flower to be the epitome of beauty

Till I saw your face, like a thousand bloomed red roses.

I could feel your heart beat every time

For that’s the only sound I hear in my ears.

The darkness I see when my eyes are closed

Cannot bother me, as you are a sun in there.

Glittering like a star, I always wonder how

Stars aren’t ashamed seeing how perfect you shine than them;

The sun even has gone in to hiding at night,

Not being able to see the shining beauty that ensembles you.

I have indeed waited in silence, for a million years, quite unknown to everyone

To just have a glimpse of yours, to just see a smile on that beautiful face

The smile that shines even brighter than the moon.

I disagree with people saying dreams aren’t true

For my only dream is you, and you are the only real one for me.

A deep sorrow plunges in to my heart,

Whenever you say goodbye and leaves;

The moments I spend thereby,

Are just for the moment when I see you again.

Why I search in every crowd your face, I am uncertain,

For I know for sure you can’t be anywhere there,

There’s no place for logics or calculations when it comes to you for me,

As you make my life and life’s when I have you as my life.

When you are not there, I feel lifeless

As the mere thoughts I have of you keeps my breath on this earth.

I will choose to close my eyes forever and bid adieu to the world

When I see you happy and content in life

What it means to me when you are far away from me

I know I live in every heart beat you take.

I am the smell that engulfs in every breath you have,

And I know my name will be always safe on your lips.

For I can’t fear even death now,

For in the world to come I am sure,

No one can ever make us apart,

Our hearts will meet in the garden of heaven forever and ever and ever.

Public speaking-How to make it effective

A simple thing that I have noticed which becomes extremely difficult for many of us is public speaking. Often we have a lot of ideas, creativity but when it comes to express it in front of an audience, especially people we are seeing for the first time, is indeed a difficulty. I was no different, in my early days I had hardly done any public speaking and I could feel my legs tremble, my voice break, my eyes loosing focus and all whenever I was supposed to enter a stage or asked for addressing a group of people.

I would like to share a few tips that I used and found extremely useful when it comes to public speaking that helped me a lot that now I feel confident enough to handle an audience much better.

1) The first and foremost thing we need during public speaking is confidence in oneself. Make sure you have the talent and tell the same to yourself. Your mind should be calm, of curse this comes with practise and a few tries, and focused and let the confidence flow in. You are not the worst public speaker around and you are one of the best future speakers, keep this in mind.

2)Always consider your audience and what they know about the subject you are talking about; generally we get a mixed audience those who don't know the topic, those who know a bit and those who have a greater knowledge on the topic. Make sure your speech/talks are simple so that all these groups can be attracted. Once you gain the audience attention, you are half won.

3)Never say anything that you are not confident about or cannot justify. This way you can handle questions from the audience in a better way.If you are doubtful you can always get back to them later or say that in my opinion/I beleive this is like this. Nobody is perfect so to admit things like this will just improve your skills rather than saying foolish things in public.

4)Never touch controversial topics, its better that we always do a practice as of what we want to speak. Make small notes, practice in front of the mirror/ a friend and ensure that you know what you are about to speak once you are on stage.

5)Voice control is a major attribute in public speaking. Ensure you are audible and your voice is clear. No need to shout (especially if mike is there) but maintain the right emotions in your voice; you can record few rehearsal speeches and improve by listening to that.

6)Make sure your body language is appropriate, leaning on a table, pressing palms together etc shows nervousness, so avoid them. Move your hands gently as per your speech if needed, and you can also walk slowly if you want as it eases the tension a lot.

7)Never bore your audience. Keep your speaking interactive, if you feel the audience is no longer interested, wind up the speech.

8)Every person has weaknesses, this can be overcome by practise only; on the meantime rely on your strengths and empower them.

9)Make sure you analyse the topic thoroughly before making a speech, you should be confident enough to deal with questions asked on the topic.

10)Do not read from notes during speech, I give this a big NO NO as you are wasting eye contact with your audience, which is the major step in public speaking. Small notes on rleavant points can be kept just as a reference if you forget something, but make sure you dont need it anyway.

11)Respond, adjust and adapt. Respond to the questions from the audience, give them importance and ensure that you answer the question completely. Adjust to the situation while you are on s stage (as per the level of audience, their numbers etc:) and also adapt to the situatons (may be you have to reduce your speech due to unforseen circumstances)

30 steps for writing effective emails (personal or corporate)

Today we live in a technologically revolutionised environment and words like facebook or email are common to the ordinary man. It's been long since we have seen letters coming via post boxes but the use of emails have increased day by day and we more or less communicate serious matters over mails, not chats, as they provide later as a proof of communication too.

Now my question is are there any rules for emails, you may get loads by searching in google or so, but what I feel are the below simple rules can help you write a better email, try this and find the dufference for yourself.

1) Always use an active voice in your mails (Eg: My plane is coming at 5:30 PM in New York and I will reach the meeting by 8PM). This shows your assurance and the reader can be sure about your plan/intentions rather than guessing this is what the sender thought (this can be pretty dangerous).

2) Always make sure you address the person by his/her name, first name in full for official emails, pet names if any in personal mails is fine, but simply avoid this in official mails. This is because the same mail may be needed by someone else and can be forwarded to others and using pet names is not considered a standard practice. If you are sending to a group of people use "Hi Team, Hi All' to address them. Ensure that you do not include pet names or jokes if you are sending to a person the first time as he/she can take it in a wrong sense and the same applies while sending to a group (especially if subject of mail is something serious).

3) Keep your mail clear and concise. By clear I mean the message that you plan to deliver should reach the reader without confusing them. (Eg:"It's pretty cold here and blockages in the road can block me on the way to office and my reaching on time can be a big blockage" kind of things are simply confusing). Keep your mail short, try to deliver as much as you want and detailed explanations are not needed (unless asked to).

4) Avoid too many smileys (they do not look good in corporate world) and avoid such strange symbols like ! (exclamation mark). Some people have a habit of adding them to each and every situation and this looks odd  (Eg: I heard you are writing the exam. All the best!!!!...This sounds like the person is really wondering you have any luck at all for passing the exam). The thumb rule here is if unsure dont use any smileys or exclamations.

5)Avoid negative sentences in emails but better phrase them well with reason (Eg: Who the hell are you to say this can be started can sound negative and harsh. On the contrary "I beleive we need further communications/approvals to start the same" can deliver the message more positively).

6) Avoid contradicting statements or unintentionally problematic statements in emails (Eg: James did not finish thw work and is lazy. As I am on a tour, James will attend this meeting on behalf of me)

7) Use a constant font (a generalised Cambria font 11 or Times New Roman will do) throughout the mail. As your mail is concise, no need to keep some portion bold, highlighted in red or so (unless asked to) as each and every part of your email is important and must be read. People have a general habit to just check the bold or highlighted part and by this way some other meaning conveyed in normal font may be missed.

8) Use a standard signature in all official mails (avoid Yours lovingly kind of stuff here as its an email). The signature should contailn the email id to conatct you and a cell/phone number that can be used to reach you.

9)Make sure you send emails to only people who are concerned with the matter. Avoid sending to a distribution list unless necessary.

10)Avoid making a lot of paragraphs (2 paragraphs is enough in a mail) as we are writing an email, not an essay, it should be concise.People hate reading long mails.

11) Avoid short forms in emails unless you are sure the other person is aware of that term ( Eg: I will be in PTO till 24th of May, so expect a delay in responses. People in western countries get a Paid Time Off or PTO and in some cultures it's not present so make sure you understand to who you are sending)

12) Avoid BCC (hiding recepients) if possible in emails. If it involves a lot of people and the recepient needs to give a reply, he may not know who all to reply. In simple emails, this is fine, but better avoid it, unless necessary.

13) Try to avoid degrading, threatening, racist or immoral messages in emails even do not forward such emails, this can cause troubles which are far beyond your control.

14) Try to keep a meaningful subject line (never leave it blank) for your email, this always helps.

15)Proof read your email (read again after writing, spell check, grammer check) before clicking send button. Once send there is no way you can change what you have sent. (recall may not work everytime). If in doubt, call a trusted friend/colleague to proof read your email (avoid disclosing confidential matters to others)

16) In official emails if you are writing to an unknown person, make clear who you are in the email (in signature also this can be done) and on what purpose and on whose direction (if needed) you are contacting that person. This will avoid delays and confusions. Everyone are busy so in initial communication if we cover these things, further communications will go smooth.

17) Do not assume the mentality of the reader. Keep messages gender free and no need to drag in controversial opinions or discussions where it is unnecessary, stay neutral.

18) Avoid excessive compliments or flattery as people may think this as a way of buttering/you want something from them. Make genuine statements of compliments if needed.

19) Emails are not a place to show you are William Shakespeare (Eg: With the profound intellectuality of recent events, we can merchandise the things equivalently). Keep your emails clear and simple, use simple English that everyone understands.

20) Avoid excessive questions in one mail (one question one mail is the maximum as more questions can confuse readers). Make sure you state the benefits (if any) from the email or its action items.

21) Avoid writing in capital letters (and bold unless strictly needed). This gives a screaming feeling to the reader and in some cultures it's considered insulting.

22) Avoid unnecessary attachments. If a person asks you a Word document, just attach and send that, no need to send five or six supporting documents you used to prepare that word document.

23) Avoid the "Reply All" and "Forward" button for every mail you receive. This helps you to effectively communicate and avoid server congestions.

24)Avoid highly confidential matters in emails if possible, as security is always an issue.

25) Avoid using unnecessary phrases like (URGENT, EMERGENCY etc). The reciever may get around 100 mails per day so you can't judge what's important for you is important for the reader. Everyone considers their emails as important.

26) Avoid replying to spam mails (if official mail, report them) or disclose your ID to unknown people.

27) Use visual aids (a screenshot or so) if needed as it helps the reader understand your concern better.

28) Try to avoid assuming things, you may know something (may be a technical term) of which the reader is unaware of, keep yourself in the readers show while composing any mail.This knowledge gap can waste much time if not handled properly.

29)If you are sending to people in other time zones, delays are possible , especially on Monday mornings (after weekend many mails are there). So choose a suitable time to send your mail (or expect a reply)

30) Always reply the genuine mails you receive, show acknowledgement and appreciate (dont over do it) the other persons time and effort.

Tarot card rules I follow and want to be followed

Today I thought of writing about the general rules of tarot cards reading that I follow and I wish to follow when in a tarot session, before or after. The first and foremost rule is the compatibility between the tarot reader and the client, go to a tarot reader only if you are confident in that person and above all you are not going there to experiment the knowledge of the person reading the tarot, but to find generalised ideas on how you can improve situations in your life, owing to the tarot cards read. Now let's see some of the general rules that I beleive in

Rules for the clients:
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1) Please treat the tarot as a means of divination, nobody can tell you exactly what your future is and never ask a tarot reader to exactly predict your future as it is in your hands as well as depends on various other factors. The tarot reader can help you with suggestions to improve the result or clarify doubts.

2)Never mistrust/mistreat a tarot reader as he/she is trying to help you. Go only to a genuine person who knows how to read tarots and never indulge in tarot sessions with persons you dont beleive, it will not be of any help for the tarot reader nor the client.

3)Keep yourself calm and present during the tarot session. You need to pay attention to what the tarot reader says and think clearly on how the same can be applicable in your life. Don't rush yourselves and be focused during the reading session and co-operate with the reader so that the session is fruitful for both parties.

4)Avoid using drinks containing caffeine or such emulating drinks/food that can get you over excited.The client should be in a balanced state of mind and often a too excited mind doesnt find reason but jump in to action based on whatever they hear.Avoiding such things will make your mind calm and free and you will be able to clearly ask your questions.

5)Try to have a personal chat with the tarot reader (oh, I love this part as it brings a connection between the tarot reader and the client.) This will avoid any misconceptions or assumptions you have and both parties will feel confient in each others company so that the tarot reading session will be effective.

6) Sit in a posture that comforts you, if you want less light/more light ask for it. Being comfortable lets your mind and body relax (not to sleep of course) and this will let you concentrate on the readings, the more comfortable you are, the better the session goes. After all, client satisfaction is the key secret in anything.


Rules for the tarot reader:
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1) The thumb rule for any tarot reader is customer satisfaction, the client come there for a better advice in tyring situations, keep the advices simple, clear and concise. Don't tell this/that will definitely happen as divination is all about changes, advice them on possible outcomes based on the cards.

2) Make yourself familiar with the tarot deck you use (for example I use the Thoth tarot deck). Make sure that you recognise any card within 2 seconds by just seeing it. You can give a two word phrase for each card that shows the properties of the card and remember them. The more quick you are with this, the better you can read the tarot.

3) Never ever judge a day/problem for the client based on a sinle card. This will be like trying to put all your daily needed stuff in a small sack, which cannot contain everything. I would better suggest go for a 3 card reading. A single card often never reveals all aspect of a problem or a day. When you have gained enough experience, you can go for advanced card readings (more cards at a time).

4)The positive/negative effect of a card always depends on other cards drawn along with it for the client. Never predict/advice anything unless you thoroughly check all the cards drawn by the client. Sometimes negative cards often show an end of a bad thing in life and something good is on the way which the other cards reveal, so judge them together and never independently.

5) Make sure you go through the cards on a regular basis. Many people feel they are acquainted enough with cards but sometimes the card combinations can be too tough to read especially if very positive and very negatve things come along. Look for the common traits here and as everyone says, only with experience one becomes perfect. By repeatedly reading tarot cards, you will be confident enough on any card combinations.

6)If the client is directly present in front of you, you can allow them shuffle the cards, deal and take the cards. This will bring them in to more connection with the cards and they wont feel the tarot reader is doing any manipulation.Often clients are curious and happy by doing this, of course it wont work if you are doing a reading over phone, but I personally ike to do direct readings.

7) Be genuine with your clients. I always talk to them in private and dont like to do readings of a person in a group. There will be many personal things which the client won't feel confident to speak when in public, so if possible (I make it sure that I do this way) do it alone with your client. Ensure that whatever communication is made between you and your client is strictly confidential. Never ever reveal the things told by your client to anyone, which is a part of ethics and your credibility.


Hope these rules help you in tarot reading/listening sessions. Have a great day...

Practice makes perfect

Once there lived a young prince named Sam who was the only child of the king of a very rich and influential country. He had taken special training in archery and in his training showdown proved that he was the best archer in the whole country and a worthy heir for the kingdom. The King was very happy about the skills of his son and appointed a special minister to assist the prince with royal matters as Sam would be the future king of the nation.

Sam was very arrogant due to the thought that he had mastered whatever possible in archery and he had no rival competent enough in the whole world. He became interested in the worldly pleasures that was there in the palace and spend time in entertaining activities and showed least interest in royal matters.The minister was very much worried about the same and decided to talk to the price. When the minister went to the palace. the prince was drawing a picture and the prince was happy to see the minister looking at his painting.

Sam:"What do you think Minister, apart from archery, am too good with the paint brush, isn't it?"

The minister smiled and nodded. He said:" The prince indeed has a lot of talent, the arts and culture needs to be flourished but as a prince you should be ready to take part in royal discussions and daily archery practice.This will help you to understand the politics involved and rule this mighty kingdom."

The prince didnt like the ministers idea that he had to train archery daily.

Sam:"I am very good in archery already Minister. Let me master the rest of things now, I will study the royal things as time pass by."

The minister left sadly. Years passed, and the prince didnt practice archery but allowed himself to be indulged in pleasures the palace offered. Suddenly one day the king got terribly ill and died. Sam was made the new king and he was not sure what to do next as being the King, he understood that the King has many responsibilities. As the King died, a cruel conqueror decided to attack this mighty kingdom. Sam let his troops in to the battle, but to his great surprise he found that he had lost his touch in archery skills and he was not able to focus his arrows which led him to a big despair. Sam was arrested and his army was on the verge of defeat when the minister, who asked aid of a neighbouring country, with its army fought against the conqueror and succeeded. The conqueror fled and Sam was very ashamed that he didnt listen to the minister initially.

After returning to throne, Sam appointed the minister as his cheif advisor and started practising archery and studying politics by which he became one of the most famous kings that land had ever seen. 

An extract from  "Love is all about adjusting", my novel:
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Well, the next thing I knew was I was going as a guest to her house, this time to impress her family. Catherine was nothing but excited about the concept of introducing me to her family but I felt rather tensed, I always had the impression that her parents never liked me much, me being an archaeologist also didn't much appeal to them. Anyways for me Saturday was the last day of the week and I had enough and more time to prepare myself to be introduced to her family but after all my work, I hardly ever thought about this and I did not get time,I remembered on Friday night I got a call from Catherine asking that I had to come at her house around 7PM for dinner.

Catherine:"Hey,Joe, Are you all excited about meeting my parents?"
Me(I didn't wanted to hurt her feelings):"Yes dear, I can't recall when was the last time I was this much excited."

Catherine:"Wow...that sounds cool..Don't be late, we expect you to be here at 7."
Me:"Yeah, sure."

She was very happy and I was thinking whole night on what I had to talk to her parents, I even had a  dream that I was in an ocean when a shark came near me and bit me.

The next day evening I got a bouquet of the lilies that Catherine liked and set m journey to their house. When I rang the bell, I could hear hurried footsteps coming towards the door and I saw a bright smiled Catherine welcoming me to her home.

Catherine:"I would like you to be introduced to my cutie Pearl first. She is so very excited to see you."

I was confused, who was pearl after all, it's been only a considerable less time that we started dating each other and we were planning to get married when I didn't even remember half of her family members name, I hardly remember my relatives name, but I never show her that. So all in a hurry I followed her to meet Pearl, whoever that was (I thought of all possibilities from her aunt to her dog), but I was in for a great surprise when she opened her bedroom door and there Pearl was, a big ferocious tigress lying on a bed, which looked small compared to her size, she showed her teeth and growled while we entered.

I tried to turn around but Catherine had closed the door.

Catherine:"Isn't she cute?"

Me:" Yeah" (I couldn't see how a tigress with all that teeth and growls could be cute, but I didn't wanted to offend her feelings."

Catherine:"Go and give her a hug sweet heart, she has been waiting for you."

Me:"Well I think am fine here, is she hungry? I heard tigresses are more ferocious."

Catherine:"Oh, she just had her dinner, she is my pet. Let her see my dear soon."

Me:"Well I may look like a deer to her now. I just don't wish to visit a place I never had."

Catherine:"Which place?"

Me:"Her stomach." The tigress was growling while I got a furious look from Catherine. I understood love isn't that easy after all, it asks for a lot of adjustments.